(Article Source: Times of India, Mumbai Mirror)
The season of joy. Or is it? The holidays can bring awkward situations. From dealing with pesky relatives to surviving the office party, REEMA SHAH shows you the ropes.
1. I am single at the ripe old age of 35! i like spending new year’s eve with my friends, but its awkward to be the only single one there.
While my friends are sensitive, their partners aren’t. They always ask that dreaded question: Why aren’t you married yet? or worse, fix me up with their pals (read: wierdos!)
Should i spend the evening alone with a tub of ice cream or should i go out? if its the latter you advise, how do i make a smart comeback?
Holiday buster:
Ice cream is poor compensation. So, unless you want to be an unhealthy 35 year old, put on your dancing shoes and hit the town!
Being around friends is the most natural human urge. Stop allowing others to manipulate your feelings by changing your perception of yourself as a victim.
Instead, excercise your basic right to living assertively. when choosing between fight and flight, go for the fight!
Combat strategies:
Pin the blame of your single status on external factors.
For instance, the increasing number of pervs on matrimonial sites!
Or learn the art of subtly turning the question regarding your marriage into pertinent global issues like global warming!
Remember, don’t get defensive and touchy about your single status. Enjoy your reality. It will result in an assertive body language and tone of voice which is a message in itself to the deriding married people.
